11 Sure Fire Dating Rules that Worked
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11 Sure Fire Dating Rules that Worked
We have some tips for you to help those of you are intentionally looking for marriage when you are dating. These tips have worked for some and have helped them out.
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Tip #1: Career Specific Choices.
The Golden State is where people go to leave out their dreams of fame. Sometimes that is off putting to people who are afraid that those careers lead to serial breakups and more.
I pushed back because I was interested more in her musician friend.
The famous R&B Singer Montell Jordan and his wife Kristin have started a marriage coaching career of their own speaking at churches, events and programs to encourage others that they can have a successful marriage.
They both authored a book “This is HOW We Do It” titled after Montell’s famous. song. This Is How We Do It: Making Your Marriage A Masterpeace: Jordan, Montell, Jordan, Kristin: 9781942306962: Amazon.com: Books
Couples like them or like Ice Cube or Denzel, prove that being in the limelight does not have to be an issue if you and your mate are intention.
I am waiting to hear if the musician is the one.
Tip #2: When someone tells you who they are Believe them.
Not everyone lies. Some people are honest about who they are and what they have done. Sometimes red flags are in your face. You have the freedom to choose who you will or won’t be with. Because marriage is THAT important, you should not play around with risky mates and potentially dealing with more than you can handle after you tie the knot.
Tip #3: Develop a Strong Friendship
A strong friendship allows you to see the true person you are getting involved with. Physical will come and can often cloud your judgment about a person because lust /love is confused. With a true friend, you can work on the physical and when the physical stops you won’t be empty handed without nothing else to hold the relationship together. While sexual intimacy is important, it is not the ONLY important part.
Tip #4: Marry Young
Dating is difficult and even more so the older you get. It is not impossible and there are many beautiful love stories out there of older couples. But when you find love young, you have so much to learn and explore with your mate as you grow and do together. This is a tip that worked for this user but do what will work for you.
My husband and I met at 22/23 and married at 26/27. And we tease each other as we get gray hairs and our bodies have changed. Those things create memories.
When you find the right person, don’t wait. Tomorrow is not promised.
Tip #5: Find the one
Many people give up and say that finding a good person is hard. Yet, finding the right person for you will be. You aren’t just looking for any ole body, you want someone that meets your needs, and you are willing to meet theirs. Marriage is a serious endeavor, and you may have to date different people, move areas, look online, open up your heart to different possibilities. Finding that someone is worth the work and worth trying.
Tip #6: Choose sexual partners wisely.
We have to be realistic that everyone is not going to wait until marriage. It is what it is. But if you are going to lay down, lay down with the knowledge that you can make children and choose who you want to make children with wisely. This is only fair to all parties involved including the children. Sexual responsibility is that of both partners and must be taken with the utmost respect to outcomes.
Tip #7: Be observant.
Watching how someone treats others, especially those they get no benefits from, is a clear sign of that individual’s character. Don’t think that because you are in a “special position” that person can’t treat your horribly. That is naive and oftentimes dangerous.
People are capable of anything. Don’t be stupid because you are starry eyed and lovestruck that you open the door to toxicity or worse.
Tip #8: Preferences
People are particular about their preferences and should not be bullied into dating, having sex with or seeking out people they don’t want to. That includes sexual orientation respect, size restrictions, race or any other attributes they want. If Leo wants women under 25, that is his choice. If a man does not date fat Black women, that is fine by me.
You can have preferences without bashing. It is simple.
We do not get to dictate who someone wants to be with. And if you are secure in yourself, you will never demand someone dates you. No still means no.
Tip #9: Trust your instincts.
You know you the best. You know if a situation does not feel right and is not right for you. Honesty starts in the beginning. It maybe the Holy Spirit warning you or the good common sense the Lord gave you. Someone meant for you should not give you bad vibes.
Be careful out here.
Tip #10: Date with intention
I could have saved myself a lot of hurt if I was honest with myself up front that I wanted to be married will I dated. I tended to be a coward instead letting whatever happen being fearful that I was driving men away. Thinking with my insecurities, I dated based on who showed me any interests and went with their moves. And I didn’t have the guts to break it off maturely when I was done.
Dating with intention instead puts your goals upfront and let’s the other person know what they are getting themselves into. We can’t go into relationships insecure and fearful. That is how bad things happen or they go south.
Break Fear.
Fear is the thief of joy. It steals your right to say no. It makes you a coward which is worse than a bad person. A coward is deceitful themselves and others.
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Tip #11: Know Your Worth
When you don’t know who you are or how valuable you are, you accept anything.
Insecurity makes you look to others for validation and feeds into a low self-esteem. As the comedian Kat Williams put it “It is SELF-esteem”. It is how you feel about yourself, meaning you can choose to LOVE you too.
NO one has the right to abuse, mistreat or manipulate you; no matter how much they say they love you!
Key Takeaway
You can date and marry with the idea that you will have a relationship that last.
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