9 Steps New Married Couples Can Take to Strengthen Their Marriages
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9 Steps New Married Couples Can Take to Strengthen Their Marriages
We can make it as a team, a married couple for a lifetime. And there are ways to make the journey a good one. We just have to apply practical and realistic actions to get us there.
Many times, people give us vague or unsure answers that keep us stuck and we don’t know what to do.
So I asked the question:
And many of you Iconics responses were great. It helped me too. We are all on this journey together and I hope these responses encourages you, especially the ones just starting out or struggling right now.
STEP #1: Talking and Praying
Effective Communication is so important, we have paid articles about them over on the main page. But when you talk often with your spouse, many things can be cleared up or you can come to some compromise that works. God is always listening so prayer is another way to strengthen your bonds and solve problems.
“Cast your cares upon the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” – Psalm 55:22
Step #2: Take Time Away from the Kids
Doing things that make the couple the center of attention helps keep the priorities straight. There will be other chances to take the kids out or to spend time with God, but also make time for you and your spouse alone. Not talking about bills or work but remembering each other. Respecting the relationship makes it known how important that person is to you. And you don’t need to wait for holidays.
Step #3: Take Vows Seriously
Whether the ones most couples say or the ones you wrote yourself, your VOWS mean something. They should be at the forefront of your mind. You better take them seriously because when you don’t its reals so many flaws in your character. Yes, for sickness and in health, richer or poorer, that meant top and bottom in the roughest or best situations. If you start with that in mind, it will take you guys as far as you can go before you leave up out of here.
Step #5: Embrace Change
Being flexible to change is everything. My mom and dad have been together for 40 years with 6 kids and 12 grandchildren. They started out living with my grandmother, changing careers and moving across the country twice! They had to be flexible and embrace all the changes that four decades can cause. They are definitely not the same people dealing with so much. And yet, the love is still as strong as ever.
MY STORY:
My husband and I had talked about my infertility early on in the relationship. So, when we first got pregnant, we were excited. And then we lost the baby. I was devastated. Crawling back from that was hard.
Embracing the change of thinking you were going to be a mom and going through all the pregnancy symptoms and then it does away was tough.
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Step #6: Ask first
You do not know what someone is feeling or thinking until you ask. Being upfront about situations can stop so many headaches before they start. It is a sign of respect too that you value what your spouse’s needs and wants are when you go to them before big decisions. Remember, it is not about control but being a team and on the same page.
Step #7: Do not postpone fights
Arguments are going to happen so go ahead and get them out of the way. When you let stuff fester, it makes issues bigger than they are or you get angrier as time lets it sit. The solution can also be found quickly if you just go ahead and say something. Do not delay. You and your partner are not the same person. You will bump heads. Have the fight, get it over and something good might come next.
Step #8: Listening
A part of effective communication and fighting, is also listening. Most times we teach couples what to say, how to speak or when to speak up. But listening is just as important than what is or isn’t said. When we listen to our spouse, we can learn how they think and how they express themselves. Open up our ears and hearts can save us trouble and time.
Step #9: Thoughtfulness
Showing that you care when the other isn’t in your face matters. Whether you grab their favorite food while you are buying yours, you grab their coat when it is cold or put their favorite show on as they come in the room, thoughtfulness is an expression of love and that you care. They matter to you, show it. Show them often how much they mean to you so when you do have those struggling times, the memories keep you home.
Strengthen your marriage takes you caring about it from the start. It means giving your all and doing the work to keep it lasting.
No it is not easy, but you have to give the best that you got!
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