Back to the Basic: 6 Keys to Unlocking the Power of Respect in Marriage
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Back to the Basic: 6 Keys to Unlocking the Power of Respect in Marriage
We get it, marriage can be hard. But there are ways to increase your chances of success as you implement some of the ideas from our Iconic newsletter.
You cannot have a successful marriage without respect. Respect is a means of consideration, adoration, honoring someone’s inherent human value and worth. You recognize their individuality, their autonomy and their existence.
Respect plays a key role in how you view marriage at all. Without respect, marriage cannot flow through mutual appreciation for what they can bring and you two can build off of.
Respect is,
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements
due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others
a particular aspect, point, or detail respect - Search (bing.com)
How we treat the ones we love matters. It is the glue that binds our relationship and lets people know we feel.
Key #1: Use Your Words
How you show respect for your own marriage union and your mate is how you talk about these things.
What you say about them, yourself, being married etc shows the level of respect and how you honor one another and the institution.
People often describe marriage in depressing terms, in disappointment or as a prison sentence. That doesn't show admiration for your spouse or the belief that you are happy.
People who consistently bash their spouse, publicly flame them and make TikTok videos about their marital woes do not respect their privacy and the complex way marriages functions.
Words are powerful. You can build someone up or tear them down. You can motivate, inspire, massage, encourage with your words.
You can also destroy peace, nag, belittle, abuse and curse people with what you speak over them and into their life.
Use your words to convey your love.
Something I said earlier on my Twitter: “Silences is better than saying something you regret”. It is very hard to take back painful words than to say nothing.
Words have power. With great power comes great responsibility. Be responsible and love your spouse with your words.
Respect is about making the tough choices to honor yourself and your love. It is not always easy.
It takes courage to fight for love, even if they leave you.
Respect for yourself is standing up and using your communication to say what you mean and mean what you say.
Key #2: Don’t Air Dirty Laundry
Most people do not care to hear your business. Most just want to mind their own business and do what they have to do to make it every day. When you gossip about your spouse to others, you paint a picture of someone that is not around to defend themselves.
Instead, handle what you have to and go to therapy if needed. You make people feel awkward when you unknowingly invite them into your relationship and into your personal disagreements.
Not only does complaining about our spouse on social media hurt them emotionally. You know they are going to see it or someone is going to tell them about it. Their relationship with others can also be harmed just by our words.
When we paint our spouse in a bad light, it makes others think of them negatively as well.
I repeat Facebook and other social media platforms are not the place to air your dirty laundry. That stays between you and your spouse. The Effects Of Social Media On Marriage - keepingthetiethatbinds.com
You two may do things that others find weird or strange. We cannot judge what we do not know.
You also show your spouse you care to handle your business in private and respect each other to be able to have discussions alone.
Key #3: Balance Criticism and Praise
While no one is perfect, we all have room to improve. Balance your criticism with the praise you have for them. Many people do not liked to be worshipped either and overly worshipping them can make them feel strange.
People want their spouse to be open and honest, fake praise or constant criticism can tear down a loved one’s self-esteem or make them give up doing the work to keep the peace and a happy home.
Addressing issues is a must to service the long-haul. People tend to remember the complaints more than the times you were nice or encouraging.
So, you must learn to be able to do both and expect both.
Key #4: Agree with their ideas when you can
A great way to show respect for your partner is to agree with them when you can.
They may have grown up differently than you or have other ways of doing things but letting them decide gives them the sense that you lean into them and trust them.
Being the one to do everything can get old quickly. Knowing that I am a spouse who is trusted to drive, pay bills, deal with the kids on my own without always needs to talk to my husband let’s me feel he believes in me as his wife and trusts my judgements.
In the Bible, it says in Ephesians 5:33 (NLT), “Each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Key #5: Acknowledge their efforts and Publicly Show Affection
One time we were at a family outing and my husband did something with my siblings when I wasn’t around.
They were teasing me like when we were kids, but my husband stepped up in my defense.
I heard about it later when they acknowledged that my husband was not afraid to stand up for me to them in such a public setting.
It made me feel respected as his wife and we often will publicly show our positions for each other as we are out and about.
Saying “thank you” and even calling each other pets names around other people shows others and our children that being married can be a happy thing.
When he gets awards at work or I get acknowledge online we cheer each other, be supportive and offer advice.
Even if something does not go totally as planned, we acknowledge the efforts that our loved one puts in because we know it takes a lot.
Key #6: Take Responsibility for When You Are Wrong
We don’t always say the right thing or do the right thing. Apologizing and making things right when we do wrong is not a weakness but takes courage to admit when can be wrong.
Our spouse deserves our respect and in admitting that we need to be forgiving, gives them the chance to show their love in forgiving us. It lets us see that they won’t quit on us and give up on us when we make mistakes, mishaps or missteps.
We do not feel stupid or brain damaged because we fail. Instead, our spouse understands that we can fix a mess and make life better.
Plus, make up sex, a dinner or some type of gift is always a nice gesture to remind the person you love that despite our flaws, we still want and NEED them to be around.
Wrapping Up
Respect matters in a long-term marriage because it shows that you care enough about how you treat your mate.
It can go a long way when times are tough to keep the memories going.
When you respect your marriage, you act a certain way, you talk a certain way and you do nothing that brings harm on the two of you.
You do things that empower and uplift to carrry you two through.
We are going Back to the Basics to create strong and healthy marriages because we need them, our society, our families and our communities are hurting.
When we do things to get the results of our efforts, we are better for it.
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