Dual Income No Kids (Dinks)
Is being Childless the next new Trend?
Good morning, Icons,
We are back with an empowering newsletter for you.
We want to continue our work in life, love, marriage and family.
How has 2023 been for you? I hope you reach all your goals and have new ones for 2024.
We are an Iconic community so please, like, share and comments on our newsletters to spread of message worldwide.
Dual Income No Kids (Dinks): Is Life Without Children a New Trend?
There is a trend over on TikTok that made its way to the X app that has went viral.
It is called Dinks, or Dual Income No Kids individuals who are sharing how they cope and live their lives with no children by choice of their own.
There are videos, newsletters and more on this topic as these individuals seek to expand people’s definitions of family and whether or not children should be involved.
Learn more in this Video:
It is young couples talking about the millions of ways they are happy with their marriages or relationships without children.
At least they know what they want. That’s a good thing.
We don’t need more unwanted children in the world or parents that feel forced to have children.
That is a recipe for disaster.
The most recent report from 2021 shows that an estimated 606,031 children passed through the US foster care system over the course of one year. This number, from the Adoption and Foster Care Analysis and Reporting System (AFCARS), represents both the children who were already in the system at the beginning of the federal fiscal year (October 1, 2020) and the children who entered into the system over the next 12 months. On the last day of the fiscal year, September 30, 2021, approximately 391,098 kids were in foster care. How many kids are in foster care in the US? (usafacts.org)
That probably will seem weird that I don’t push for couples to have kids when my entire movement is based on building social empires.
But to me, building social empires to thrive mean intentionality.
Couples need to know what they want and work towards that goal.
I personally come from a family of 8, two parents and 6 kids. I know the struggles, the sacrifices and the pain my parents went through to provide for us.
And yet, they love us the most. They don’t regret it.
Have they misses out on a lot? I know they have. And I am forever thankful for them, their lessons and their wisdom.
Importantly, they’ve built in me a desire to be a mother.
Our Iconic Media Holiday Event
Goal: over $3000 to give 200 lucky winners access to our collection.
Our December 2023 Giveaway starts now. We are giving away 200 books continuing our work from October and November to empower.
“Breaking Fear” is my birthing story of how I had our children. And it wasn’t easy.
I was sad during our first attempt when we had a miscarriage, I wanted to die.
But that wasn’t how my story would end. I had to break the fear of living without our child and be free.
How did I accomplish that? Read today.
Donors will receive this book or other gifts depending on the package selected below, which includes my story.
Your funds will help us give out books to others for FREE, as this is the season of Giving.
Our goal is $3000 by Jan 1. Let’s meet that number together.
Here are some of our Free Gift Recipients:
AirForce Veteran and California Congressional Candidate Aja Smith, who is also featured in our Breaking Fear Workshop audio in the back of the book, received her prize thanks to you!
Marine Corp Veteran and New Hampshire Congressional Candidate Julian Acciard also received his gift thanks to your donations.
Be a Blessing today by clicking the button.
These are our Iconic Marriage Holiday Packages: Choose your package here.
Give $15 get 1 eBook.
Give $30 Get 3 eBooks or 1 print book.
Give $50 Get 5 eBooks or 2 print books.
Give $100 get eCourse with free coaching consultation
Give $125 get all 5 print books in our collection.
give $150 Get entire collection (books and eCourse).
Choose your package here and help us continue to build. We can’t do this without you.
Benefits of Leaving a Legacy
Now, from my personal experiences, having children has been a blessing.
My husband and I love our two, they mean the world to us. And we wouldn’t trade it for the world.
We had an entire year living together before our son arrived and we did a lot. And it was fun. (I know cohabitation is a no-no).
But it is nothing compared to being married, with our kids and building our social empire through wealthy creation, debt reduction, homeschooling and more.
For us, this was the best pathway.
Are there benefits to giving birth, having children, and leaving a legacy if that is something your social empire wants?
The answer is a resounding yes.
Here are just a few things from a simple search on Bing.com:
Benefits of having children include123:
Easier periods
Lower risk of breast cancer
Lower risk of other cancers
Better sex
Reduced risk of MS
A lower risk of stroke
Turning a couple into a family
Learning to be unselfish
A great source of life satisfaction, self-esteem and meaning, especially for women.
There are positives to having children! Go figure.
It isn’t all just late-night bottles, no money and lots of crying (it is that too).
Family vacations, wrestling and playing, family hugs, children are a blessing.
Psalm 127:3: "Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him."
I do know that people will talk about the societal burden of an aging population without the help of family members to take care of them.
It is my belief that we shouldn’t just have kids to take care of us in old age but is it fair to let the rest of us who do have kids, bear the burden of those who didn’t secure.
Fortunately, those who go this route must plan and have paid services.
Those services have to be up to par to take care of an aging elderly population.
According to Census. gov, there are things to consider:
Childless older adults have fewer sources of potential support within their households: about 4 in 10 childless older adults live alone, compared to 2 in 10 parents.
Childless adults are also less likely to have gotten married and, therefore, less likely to be living with a spouse than are parents.
About 40% of childless adults are living with a spouse, compared to 63% of parents.
They are more likely than parents to be living with a cohabiting partner, but these relationships are still relatively uncommon among older adults: only 5% of childless adults and 3% of parents are cohabiting.
About 13% of older parents and 12% of older childless adults live with another type of relative such as an aunt/uncle, cousin, nephew, or parent.
It is important to remember that although childless adults have fewer sources of potential support within their households, those with more resources may be in a better position to obtain paid care than parents. (Source)
Even if the couple is childless by infertility rather than a choose of their own, they must plan for their later than life care. There are also no guarantee children can or will be able to care for their own relatives especially if an inheritance or social empire didn’t plan well for this stage of life. Planning for end of the life care is paramount and should be included in all family planning discussions.
That is why we push here at Iconic to build thriving social empires so that all those involved have a lifetime of success instead of strain.
The Talk
Having children is a big discussion for any couple and both individuals need to be on the same page. You must have the talk even before you have sex. Because people who bring children into the world without a plan are fishing for trouble.
At Iconic, we believe children are a blessing and regularly support charities that do work to help families in need.
You must talk about all aspects of having kids even if you think kids are not for you, you’ll never know what could happen in the future.
Children benefit from a two-parent married household more than anything when the parents set them up for success.
Family planning is essential to having an Iconic family and a social empire.
No one should sacrifice their social empire for economic, political or social elevation because those kids and that family is what you leave behind.
Importantly, those of us who are Christians believe we are one body and the sons and daughters of the highest King.
Our families are the backbones for the communities (believers or not) and if we want to fix what is going on in this country, we must build better and stronger.
Making sure you have the right tools to win is essential and we are here to provide that.
Whatever your choice is about children, remember to be Iconic.
Iconic Media Coaching: Couples Zoom Consultation
We are now accepting 10 new clients for coaching in life, love, marriage and family.
Some topics include but aren’t limited to:
Are you unsure how to start homeschooling?
Are you wanting to figure out communication issues in your marriage?
Do you need help in family planning?
Get personalized help, below.
The Iconic Media Coaching Branch has openings for 1-hour consultations for you and/or your spouse at $100.
Payment is required during scheduling.
Space is limited.
If you are interested, please click the button below and schedule your consultation.