Fear-Based Decisions: Preventing Growth in Healthy Marriages
7 Solutions for Peace in our new Iconic Fear Series
Good Monday, Icons,
We are back with our final week in August.
Kids are ready to go back to school.
Hopefully this triple digit heat is going away.
Prayers to the victims of the anti-black racial attack down in Jacksonville, Florida and
safe prayers for those in the pathway of the depression coming to that state.
We at Iconic Media send our condolences to the families and communities affected by this tragic event.
Fear-Based Decisions: Preventing Growth in Healthy Marriages
All we can do in the social spheres is to empower men and women to build healthy and happy homes.
But Fear pops up its ugly head.
It is a tool to keep us on edge and the powers that be know that.
Fear can creep in our marriages and destroy our unions if we allow it.
In fact, there are specific fears husbands and wives have that can literally destroy a marriage.
It happens every day.
“We have found that most women have a core fear related to disconnection – they fear not being heard, not being valued, somehow losing the love of another,” said Smalley in his book. “Most men, on the other hand, have a core fear of helplessness or feeling controlled – they fear failure or getting stepped on. How Fear Impacts Your Marriage - First Things First
Dr Gary Smalley’s book, “The DNA of Relationships” discusses that what we normally fight about isn’t the root problem.
Men and women have unique fears that they bring to their relationships and marriage.
And that is where the problems usually begin.
And in the insecurity, the fears manifest into issues that cause fights, disagreements and conflicts for couples.
This unknown relationship to fear makes either the husband or wife unaware of what is wrong.
The husband thinks his wife is nagging but she is actually upset that she isn’t being heard by him.
The husband looks like an authority figure, but he is actually scared that his wife controls the household.
These insecurities eat away at the foundation of a relationship and can cause you both to end up in divorce court.
Breaking Fear: Anniversary Remaster
September 4, 2023, will be the one-year anniversary of “Breaking Fear”, my very first eBook. And we are rereleasing it with an amazing new chapter and 4 powerful interviews from social media influencers telling their own inspiring stories.
This new chapter when talk about when fear crept in my life again and how I had to overcome fear once more.
Four social media influencers grace our Twitter Spaces talking about all kinds of fears like prison, being in the evangelical spaces, fighting a criminal case and running for political office.
When you become a Premium member at Iconic today, you get on the pre-order list for an eCopy when it drops.
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7 Solutions for Peace in our new Iconic Fear Series
We have been talking about fear lately as part of our new series to help you Break Fear and win.
We have shared with you before how to get rid of Marriage Insecurities with these 9 tips in the article below.
This topic is THAT important.
These fears can come out of nowhere and mess up a good thing.
We want to get rid of insecurity and promote growth with you and your beloved.
Here are 7 Solutions to help you manage fear, break it and win:
Reframe your mindset: Your mind is your most powerful weapon. Usually, what you think is what you believe. Change your thinking to match reality and reframe your thoughts to benefit your marriage. For example, think on the positive things your spouse does and focus on how you can better communicate fears to them.
Get Honest with Yourself: There is nothing wrong with being afraid. Acknowledge your fears for what they are and then handle them accordingly. Let your spouse know that what you are dealing with isn’t just about them but about your feelings. Then get the help you need to control your feelings.
Extend Grace: Understand that human life is hard. The other person in your marriage is doing the best they can and so are you. Give yourself and your spouse the grace and mercy they need to become the best spouse that they can.
Nip Issues in The Bud Early: Don’t wait to deal with something you see coming. It could be a bill, a test or something medical that you know you have been putting off. Fear develops when issues aren’t handled upfront and festered. If you know something is happening or is coming, deal with it right away.
Focus on Growth: When you are married things shouldn’t stay stagnant. If the husband has a Vision and the wife is supporting it, changes will come. That will also bring some ups and downs as you adjust to your goals. If you focus on the future and your endgame, you can concentrate more on the excitement of what is possible and not the fears of the unknown. Focusing on Growth allows you to be confident in ways that the two of you have improved and dependent on each other.
Learn from the Lessons: Every bad situation can be to your benefit. My miscarriage paved the way for my other children. The fear I had of losing my son because of my first miscarriage made me into a more proactive mother and giving me the foresight to look out for my own medical needs. Sometimes bad things happen to push your forward. Recognize what the fear was trying to teach you and use that to be successful.
Practice Forgiveness: Forgiveness frees us from the mental hold situations have on us. Sometimes the things we are fearful of aren’t that bad on the other side. Forgive yourself for the honest feelings you have, forgive yourself for the anger and need to get back and them. Forgive the other person and set them free from your mind. Forgiveness frees us to move on and nothing is better than breaking free from fear.
Key-Takeaways
Fear-based decisions can wreck your marriage.
Instead of focusing on what scares, we need to learn what we need to grow.
An intentional marriage is one in which we are secure in our decisions and make them in the faith that God, our mate and our position are meant to be.
And in everything we do, we are Iconic.
"The Iconic Formula for Marriage Success eCourse": 12-Step Foundational Blueprint
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This 30-day online course will teach you and your spouse 12 foundational principles to help you map a 25-year success plan for your marriage.
Core lessons include:
How to Cultivate the Mindset for a Successful Marriage
How to Develop the Mental Fortitude to Combat Marriage Challenges
How to Develop Your Marriage’s Vision and Mission Plan
How to Practice Self-Love So You Know How Best to Love Your Spouse
How to Develop a Financial Plan for Your Social Empire’s Success
How to Develop Effective Communication Strategies Based on Your Spouse’s Preferred Methods and more!
At the end of this empowering course, you will receive:
A master blueprint for success in your marriage
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