Guys: 8 Important Pointers Every Man Should Know before getting Married
Good March, Icons.
We are in month three of 2023 and I pray that you are doing well in life, love, marriage and family.
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Guys: 8 Important Pointers Every Man Should Know before getting Married
Here are your answers:
Pointer one: Recognizing Personality Disorders.
There are personality disorders that can damage otherwise healthy relationships and before marriage it is important to recognize them. After your vows, you decided to honor your spouse through sickness, and it may be difficult. Knowing what to look out for can save a lot of pain.
Family members or friends might struggle to understand someone’s actions or thoughts, and the person struggling with the personality disorder may close themselves off from their loved ones.
This is a hardship in a marriage that is a lot to undertake. There are many disorders like Narcissistic, Avoidant, Dependent, Antisocial and more in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition (DSM-5). How Do Personality Disorders Affect Relationships? All You Need to Know (therecoveryvillage.com)
Depending on the disorder someone has, relationships can suffer due to a personality condition. For instance, people with paranoid personality disorder often distrust others and cannot have healthy friendships or romantic connections due to persistent paranoia.
Pointer number two: Understanding what love is.
The Bible defines love:
“1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Pointer number three: It is work.
Marriage is a full-time job. It is work and anyone in a marriage knows this because two unique individuals have come together to be one in everything. They were raised different and are two different genders with expectations, goals and dreams. It can work if you put the work in and it is worth it.
In fact, marriage is merely a work in progress-it needs to be watered like a plant in order to grow and flourish. Here's Why Even the Best Marriages Require Work | Martha Stewart
Pointer number four: Being a Team player.
When you are in a marriage it is each person giving 100% for the union not 50/50. Teams that do everything to win usually do. It is all or nothing and has to be taken at that level of seriousness. Without teamwork, the dream does not work. Both have to invest in it and water it like a plant ready to bloom or it will die a slow death.
Pointer number five: Himself
A man has to know who he is before joining himself with a woman. If not, she will run the show or have to pick up the slack where there may be some. A man that does not know himself will have to invest time and energy in his self-worth and miss the time to lead his wife and kids. Before marriage is the perfect time to get to do the self-work that is needed so that can continue once he finds a wife.
Pointer number six: Pregnancy changes things.
From the wife’s dealings with the 10 months of work to the changes in house make up bring a child into the world makes you a father/dad for life. Not 18 years but for life to be the guiding light to that baby, everything will change from how you interact with mom to how you structure your assets. Pregnancy changes everything, be ready and enjoy.
Pointer number seven: Sex
Making love and sexual intimacy is very important to the relationship. you learn your own needs and wants as well as that of your spouse. You grow and try new things. Foreplay, romance and daily kisses all matter just as much as intercourse. You can make it work with one person for the rest of your life if you make the commitment.
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Pointer number eight: Sharing housework
Many marriages are now two income households, and even if not, there is just so much to do that a helping hand matter. If she washes the dishes, you can dry them. If you mow the grass, she can wash the driveway. If you want to get into homesteading or just having chickens now, it will have to be a team effort than just the brunt of it on one spouse. This aligns with the other pointer that talks about teamwork.
Do what works for you and stick to what you agree to do. Be flexible.
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