He Leads Like a Father: Why Kingdom Men Make Kingdom Marriages
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He Leads Like the Father: Why Kingdom Men Make Kingdom Marriages
My father wasn’t just a good dad; he was a great husband. They worked together, went to church together and took trips together. They were a team.
His relationship with God, his love for my mother, and their commitment to each other that exemplified what we at Iconic have dubbed Kingdom Marriages (we know the name isn’t new). Through ups and downs, losing loved ones, medical scares, successes through careers, children and grandchildren, my father put God first, family next, and it was an honor to be his daughter.
There’s something deeply transformational about a man who doesn’t just want to be a good husband—but desires to reflect the Father in the way he leads, loves, and shows up. My dad, Minister Clarence Pulley Jr., did that. He lived an honorable life and one I can only hope that my family can carry on.
In a world obsessed with domination, hustle, and shallow masculinity, Kingdom fatherhood offers a different blueprint—one that builds flourishing marriages, not just functioning homes.
And I’ve seen it: when a man allows the heart of the Father to shape how he engages with his wife, everything changes.
🛠️ Kingdom Fathers Build, They Don’t Just Provide
Let’s start here: Provision is important. But it’s not the whole story.
A Kingdom father doesn’t just throw money at a marriage—he builds trust with his time and cultivates safety through consistency. Like our Heavenly Father, he becomes a shelter, not just a source. He’s not perfect—but he’s present. And presence is what heals.
“The righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him.” — Proverbs 20:7
That same blessing extends to his marriage through the way he cares for his bride, mentors and guides his kids with compassion and discipline and exudes through his work ethic and what he creates. He creates a safe space that adult children could confide in him, grandchildren wanted to look up to him, and the women in his life felt truly loved.
🧠 They Lead With Wisdom, Not Ego
Kingdom men don’t lord their authority over their homes. They lead through humility. They pray before they speak. They cover before they correct. They model Christ, not culture.
Because real strength isn’t about control—it’s about sacrifice.
My dad wasn’t perfect by any means. He could get angry, be upset, and be loud but that was his passion for wanting things right, a little hard on himself that he worked himself sick, dad put everything he had into the church, into his children, and into letting my mom know she was loved, to a fault. He could be hard sometimes, and we could be difficult right back being his kids, but it was all deeply out of of love.
He didn’t have his own dad long and his relationship with his mother was fragile, and yet, my father chooses to show up with what he knew and could do.
And if any Kingdom Father, like mine, children see him valuing their mother with gentleness, how much more will they understand the heart of God?
💛 They’re Lovers and Listeners
God the Father is a listener—patient, attentive, slow to anger. So is a Kingdom husband.
He knows that love isn’t just what you say—it’s how well you understand. He asks about her dreams, not just her dinner plans. He honors her voice as part of their shared assignment.
In homes like this, intimacy thrives. Not because it’s perfect—but because it’s safe.
🌱 They Plant Legacy, Not Just Lifestyle
A Kingdom father thinks generationally. He doesn’t just want a happy wife—he wants a strong lineage. His love language is legacy.
He’s teaching his sons how to serve, not just succeed. He’s showing his daughters what covering looks like, not control. He’s stewarding his marriage with the same weight he carries as a parent, knowing both roles mirror God's heart.
👑 Final Thought: When He Fathers Like God, He Loves Like Christ
No, Kingdom husbands won’t get it right every time. But when they strive to father with the compassion, accountability, and grace of our Father, they become the kind of husbands that make heaven feel close in a household.
If your heart’s been praying for a marriage built on more than chemistry—pray for fatherhood like this.
And if you’re raising or mentoring young men: don’t just teach them to lead. Teach them to love like the Father does.
Because marriages rooted in God’s fatherhood don’t just survive—they thrive with supernatural fruit.
The Kingdom Fatherhood Initiative
Good morning, Icons,
I stand this week to honor my father by giving back to fathers who do right and who are leading communities and families today because of their duty to their progeny.
America needs all of you.
We’re have $1390 left to make to give out books in Georgia to local fathers to honor my dad, a man who taught me the power of presence, prayer, and Kingdom leadership.
This first wave of funding will help us print books, prepare library kits, and seed materials that uplift and equip fathers right where they are.
📚 Imagine a man walking into a library on a Tuesday afternoon—and walking out with wisdom that could save his marriage.
That’s the kind of impact your gift creates.
Let’s do more than say we support fathers. Let’s sow into their future.
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The Purpose and Power of Fathers | Dr Myles Munroe
I don’t pretend to know what it is like to be a man or a father. I just know I am extremely grateful to God, my mother, and to my father. I was blessed to know what having a dad in my life is like and what that meant through the good, bad, and ugly. I would be his daughter in a million lifetimes.
But what if you are a man and are unsure? I post resources here for you to help you along the way. Here is a powerful message for you from Dr. Myles Munroe.
Watch this powerful message and let us at Iconic Marriages know what you think.
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