Iconic Marriages: 11 Pointers on Why This Type of Marriage Works
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We know marriage is hard. So today, we are giving you 12 pointers on why this type of relationship is consistently successful for you and yours.
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Iconic Marriages: 11 Pointers on Why This Type of Marriage Works
Actor Denzel Washington and wife Paulette.
What does marriage have to do with patriotism and fixing America?
Everything.
When marriages win, we all win. These Iconic marriages benefit families, community and a nation.
These 11 pointers will tell you why and encourage you to be Iconic.
Pointer #1: Solves our Broken Homes Issues Ourselves
Without strong families, communities fall.
And then citizens look to the government to "Do something". And that usually means more regulations, taxations and fees on the people and nothing getting actually better.
In fact, when the people take charge of their own lives, they fare better than any government programs. For instance, the welfare program has kept many dependent on the government and that has not reversed the single-parent household rate.
Pointer #2: Reverse the Single Parent Rate
We know that single-parent households do not fare better than married ones. Not that those individuals, through their own work, cannot thrive but we know the many gains that can help come from a spouse.
Children brought up in single mother homes are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide,
9 times more likely to drop out of high school,
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances,
14 times more likely to commit rape,
20 times more likely to end up in prison,
32 times more likely to run away from home. Fatherless Single Mother Home Statistics | Fix Family Courts
NOTE:
My work is not to put down single, co-habitation without marriage or any non-heterosexual union.
I am only speaking from my own lived experiences and some of my upbringing from my own parents' 40-year relationship.
Pointer #3: Marriage in General Has Benefits
According to the CDC, America has over 1.6 million marriages with 600K divorces or a marriage rate of 5 per 1K and divorce of 2 per 1K. FastStats - Marriage and Divorce (cdc.gov)
The numbers are dismal.
And yet, I have good news. Marriage is still a good thing.
Despite the uptick in social media content that pits men and women against each other, books upon books about the ills of marriage and the talk shows about celebrity break ups, marriage as a decision can still benefit individuals.
Did you know that there are health benefits to marriage according to Harvard?
Married couples:
live longer
have fewer strokes and heart attacks
have a lower chance of becoming depressed
be less likely to have advanced cancer at the time of diagnosis and more likely to survive cancer for a longer period of time
survive a major operation more often. The health advantages of marriage - Harvard Health
Pointer #4: They are healthier Relationships.
Many people in bad, abusive or unhealthy relationships that stay together. This is not about the people that you may know that won't leave a bad situation for whatever reason.
We cannot just build any relationships. We should strive to have Iconic ones, like Denzel and Paulette Washington. The types of relationships that are built to last, work towards visions and goals with legacies.
Pointer #5: This is not a new concept
In studying Ancient Egypt, Renaissance Era and other periods of history, political dynasties were formed through bloodlines. So much so that much of it was incestuous.
Marriage between dynasties could serve to initiate, reinforce or guarantee peace between nations. Alternatively, kinship by marriage could secure an alliance between two dynasties which sought to reduce the sense of threat from or to initiate aggression against the realm of a third dynasty. Royal intermarriage - Wikipedia
That is not what we are striving for here, but those politics of yesteryear believed that who you were married to mattered in who ruled the world.
Caesar even got stabbed by Brutus for the entanglement of Marc Anthony and Cleopatra. A twisted true story of power, greed and bonds.
It was not only about love or not about love at all. It was about business and power.
Marriage is also a business.
Pointer #6: The Elite/Powerful Know the benefits of Marriage
Many people even believe today that most politicians marry into access not for love like John Kerry's family.
John Kerry’s Heinz ketchup heiress wife has millions of dollars in Chinese investments, leaving Biden’s climate change envoy facing an ethical dilemma as he regularly meets with the country’s top leaders to cut deals.
So those that be, the powerful and the wealthy still see marriage as a business.
But what about the rest of us? Should we push an institution that benefits the powerful but seems to leave the rest of us lacking?
Pointer #7: They support the Nation.
Researchers Dr. Pat Fagan, Anne Dougherty, and Miriam McElvain have identified 162 reasons -- ranging from richer intimacy to better health, higher income and more successful kids. 21 Reasons to Get Married - Beliefnet
When the government is out of the way and families are back in charge, couples can promote wealth, rear their children and work for better connections their kids see.
That stops the poverty and crime the country has to divert so many resources to through more policing, more programs and more welfare.
The money saved can shrink our behemoth of a federal gov’t and put more pressure on local gov’t to do more of their job.
The future strength of any nation depends on good marriages to yield strong revenues, good health, low crime, high education, and high human capital,' report Dougherty, Fagan and McElvain. Smart parents and smart societies pay attention to the state and strength of marriage. The fate of the nation is at stake.
This means that America should want stronger marriages. And that is what we should strive for.
Pointer #8: Celebrity entertainers make single music while coupling up
The entertainment world says one thing and do another.
For example, a few years back during "hot girl summer" where good looking single women were celebrated and told to go out and enjoy the single life, the main celebrities that were pushing it were all coupled up.
Cardi B, Nicki Minaj, Meg the Stallion, even one of the City girls had a man and a baby.
Beyonce' Knowles is married to Sean Carter aka rapper Jay Z.
Even Kayne West tried with Kim Kardashian.
Pointer #9: They are patriotic
Patriotism is a strong love for your country. When we fix homes, communities fair better and represent a stronger America.
Therefore, to save America, I push we fix families. We create not only unions, but we create healthy ones. We create relationships we don't just smile for social media for, but ones that we sleep at night smiling to ourselves and thanking God we are so blessed.
It can be done, if we are intentional.
Because once people are in love, are building wealth and raising their kids and pets, they want to maintain what they have.
Then the extra taxes add up. Then what the teachers say to their kids actually matter. Then what the cops are doing, the businesses and the medical field hit close to home.
Strong families build with their neighbors. They then have concerns they expect their officials to address.
Pointer #10: They care about the political, economic, and social direction.
We create grassroots networks on all sides that want to thrive.
That network of solid foundation latching on to others creates a network of citizens ready to thrive.
In fact,
…recognizing that marriage is the bedrock of society, federal and local governments, civic and community organizations, and religious communities have resolved to offer support for marriage. They recognize that a lack of committed marriages and two-parent families is the root of many of today’s social problems, particularly regarding child welfare "
Pointer #11: We present multiple ideas
I am for people deciding and intentional getting into Iconic marriages by doing the work.
Other ministers, Imans, priests, rabbi’s and marriage coaches have other ideas. Those of us who are passionate or are already in these types of marriages labor to get multiple ideas out there to weed through the toxic relationship culture that exist.
Our happiness or our compassionate to see better makes us grind to give couples an array of ideas.
To me, as long as we have solid marriages that are thriving, it is okay to present the people with many options.
Then you decide.
For example, Coach Felecia Killings has a series on Arranged Marriage.
Her new idea is to have couples go before a group of elders and they help facilitate marital arraignments. It isn’t like the past where the spouses get no say.
Check out the link above to learn more.
Takeaway from today’s newsletter
Being married, I am now a marriage coach showing you the possibilities.
Serving my country is a passion and I want to serve in a capacity that I know a thing or two about.
That is how we show our patriotism and how we change things. We find a niche and we deliver solutions based in that.
I want to show the reason why the "MRS" is so important to me.
The more of us who rise up to do that we just might turn some areas around.
I will never be able to do this alone if it was not for the support of my husband and the love for and of our children.
My marriage has pushed me to do more.
And that is the power of being Iconic.
Solutions: We are moving into the online e-Course space to help you win.
That is right, you have seen in many newsletters that we are presenting a solution for 10-20 real world couples in 2023: “The Iconic Formula for Marriage Success” 30-day program in June.
Building that program costs money. And this is your opportunity to help us be the counterculture in 2023 to the mainstream narratives about relationships, family, marriage and love.
This 30-day online course will teach you and your spouse 12 foundational principles to help you map a 25-year success plan for your marriage.
Core lessons include:
How to Cultivate the Mindset for a Successful Marriage
How to Develop the Mental Fortitude to Combat Marriage Challenges
How to Develop Your Marriage’s Vision and Mission Plan
How to Practice Self-Love So You Know How Best to Love Your Spouse
How to Develop a Financial Plan for Your Social Empire’s Success
How to Develop Effective Communication Strategies Based on Your Spouse’s Preferred Methods and more!
At the end of this empowering course, you will receive:
A master blueprint for success in your marriage
An online support network to collaborate with other couples.
And an exclusive invitation to join Iconic’s 12-month marriage coaching program.
This new course is in beta stage, and this will be the first launch.
As such, you have the opportunity to take full advantage of being among the first group to test this course and to receive lifetime access to its current and updated material.
The final course price will be $300.
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