Mastering Self-Actualization: Strategies for Personal Growth
Day 28 of our Iconic Women's Empowerment Series
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Mastering Self-Actualization: Strategies for Personal Growth
As we have turned the first quarter of 2024 into our Iconic Women’s empowerment series, we have embraced the “self” and talked about ways we can do most of the heavy lifting in life ourselves. You are stronger than you sometimes realize.
At times, life can get us down. But at the end of the day, we figure it out and we get done what needs to be done. We are our own heroines.
We have talked about, specifically, a number of self-topics during this series:
self-love
self-care
self-confidence
self-compassion
self-worth
self-esteem
self-empowerment
Each of these have very unique and specific definitions to your well-being that informs you on how to be the best version of you, regardless of society and others’ opinions of you.
This is your work for you, and you are alone.
The one we are talking about today is: Self-actualization. What is this?
According to Psychology Today article, “Self-Actualization In Psychology: Theory, Examples & Characteristics” By Ayesh Perera
Self-actualization is the complete realization of one’s potential, and the full development of one’s abilities and appreciation for life. This concept is at the top of the Maslow hierarchy of needs, so not every human being reaches it (unfortunately).
Wait a minute. Who is Maslow and what are the hierarchy of needs?
Marlow created this psychology theory that explains the list of basic human needs in the following chart below that becomes a hierarchy with self-actualization at the tippy-top.
For example, a talk of supplemental nutrition would fall under Physiological needs or our most basic just to stay awake and walk around.
When we have been talking about love and or self-esteem, they are higher up on the chart above but aren’t at the most basic. We need these things in our lives to be our best self and we need the exchange of these things in our relationships. Anyone who tells you that your spouse or mate doesn’t need to meet these needs are lying to you.
Watch this quick Video that explains Self-Actualization at the top from the Productivity Guy on YouTube:
Strategies for Personal Growth: Reaching Your Peak
Here are a few ways you can use to develop you on personal growth when you think about self-actualization.
Remember that is is at the top of personal needs and some never reach that level before they die. You can do it, if you stay focused and win.
These four strategies from Psychology Today will put you on a path to peak growth":
Cultivate Openness to experience: Understand that things happen. Being set in your ways can keep you stuck and make you too ridged to accomplish your goals. Think of ways that a situation can be looked at from another viewpoint. Allow yourself empathy and sympathy that you may not know everything and the grace to figure it out.
Reflect on Your Values: Think about why you believe what you do. Is your choice to get married forced on you? Do you really want raise kids? When you are forcing yourself to do things against your core beliefs you can hit a wall knowing that you don’t feel it is right. Visit your values and make sure they are in line with your values that you decide to hold dear.
Move Beyond love and esteem needs: You will get to a point when your love life is healthy, and your daily esteem is great. What then do you do to continue personal growth? You keep going. But when these are in order it makes the next levels easier to obtain. For example, A guy that work for Turkey Leg Hut lost his job and had to open up a business across the street because he was stealing money for his mistress. His mind wasn’t on his love life, and it affected his money to the point he thought it was a good idea to steal. (Source)
Not having their love life in order caused other issues. Now this former husband and wife restaurant is in turmoil, the employees are talking about not getting paid, and more. Get the other areas on the Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs met, so you can grow.
Live Authentically: Being who you are will help you manifest your dreams in a way that is sustainable. There are people that will feed your ego and tell you to do temporary fixes. Those quick fixes will backfire later. For example, when you date you put your best foot forward. But if you are loud, late, or sometimes stubborn those things will begin to present itself in the relationship. Live authentically allows someone to choose to love you as is or to feel bamboozled later on. And you will feel like a fraud. Being your true self will be the most honest to you and to others.
Summary
Self-actualization is our ultimate goal. It is our best and most true selves we learn through living our life to the fullest and striving to giving this one go our all.
It does not me that we are neglectful, or we work ourselves to the bone.
This is our growth and our lifelong aim at who we are when it is all said and done.
No matter how much we live and learn, our journey is still all our own and what we want it to be when it is done is up to us.
This realization will help us form better bonds, create new legacies and dominate in spaces we walk in.
Go be your best self-ladies and remember to always be Iconic.
Iconic Formula for Marriage Success
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