Men the time is now: Step it Up
Monthly week 4 topic: The role of husbands and fathers in marriage
As much as it annoys men to hear women proclaim they do not need men, men need to stop pretending they do not need women.
If the argument is that women act too masculine step it up so we can go back to our femineity trusting, you got it. Act like you need it.
Much of what men claim is women "acting masculine" is women for years having to be "strong". A bunch of women do not want to go at it alone but have become used to having to do for herself.
For us to admit again we need you, we need you to show it. We need you to show us we can depend on you.
I do not need my husband for everything.
I need him for who he is and what he can do that I cannot or that he can help me with. In him being the man, I can fully walk in my womanhood not having to face everything alone. I did that single. I am not doing that with someone.
My husband and I both veterans. We were on the same platoon, same squad and under the same leaders. But we did not compete. I did not have to prove my value to him. I did my job great, and he did his. We were a team before the dating. And I never felt "masculine".
Men are saying they are walking away from women. How do you then teach your sons how to be in a marriage if it holds no more value to you?
Many boys are being taught from women or men who are walking. Who is going to teach our sons how to be husbands if men give up?
In a vacuum or absent male, women step up.
As much as men complain about single mothers, women bosses and women in leadership roles, I ask where are the men?
Why is it ok to be out here having multiple women having your kids and whoremongering by men is praised?
Feminism first started as actual grievance women had. Those should not have existed. Women should have had the right to divorce abusive men for example.
It mutated into nonsense once government and academia took over, areas that are heavily Marxist.
To reiterate, this week’s topic is about men: their position as fathers and husbands.
We need our men to take charge, to be leaders.
Modern feminism is called toxic.
But why did women feel a need to depend on each other instead of their men? Where did the divide come from? And what happened to men during this time?
Until we get men and women to LIKE each other again, we will never get them in LOVE again. You do not exude lovingness when the persona you put forward is hatred.
If you been hurt, go heal. You deserve real happiness and love, but it will not come from a place of hate.
Many women do not like being held accountable.
Are you at a high enough standard to call them out? I realize when the world seems so bad, all I can do is control me. What are you doing to attract the 1 lady that meets YOUR needs?
She exists in the sea of your angst.
In fact: My husband is nothing like the men of my past. None.
But I would have never attracted him if I allowed my pain and hurt from past rape, abuse, thievery, manipulation blacken my heart fully. I still showed up to work loving my neighbor, being kind.
Bitterness repels.
I grew up close to my dad. He is my best friend. Our family is evenly divided with 4 men and 4 women.
As the eldest daughter, I tended to gravitate more to what my dad and the boys did. I liked videogames, wrestling, anime and just being rough. I still liked pretty dresses.
So, I can come off "masculine", I am a veteran after all.
My older brother used to seem like he was having more fun with bikes and such so I followed as the annoying girl. My dad said to me though that my femineity would shine when the right guy found me, and he was right.
Over the most recent years I realized that my "masculine" was a cover like being overweight. It is a type of hiding. And as my husband and brother grow in their careers and with their kids, I see the women in my family flourish in their feminine.
Advice:
Men don't bother the toxic fems. They are toxic.
What you do is look for those who need your masculinity so she can walk in her femineity. It’s about both being empowered. Let society sort out the rest. Your other half is out here. You will find her.
She is a gem.
Now it took time between my ups and downs to fully match the nice me in public with the bitter sad me behind closed doors.
Healing is not easy but a must.
It is unfair to make a new mate carry old pain. I know it sounds sweet like but that can lead to codependency.
You attract love by being loving.
Your whole persona cannot be a fight with the whole other gender. People can tell if all you want is sex and if you got game, you could get it.
But sex can be disconnected from love. Love is everlasting. Sex with the one you love is amazing.
Men it is time to lead. A nation needs that leadership starting inside you, in your family and in your community. The world needs weak men so globalism can succeed. You cannot let them win by walking away. Instead, YOU lead the counterculture.
YOU lead the charge.
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