Navigating Challenges in Your Marriage: 5 Strategies for Self-Sufficiency
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Navigating Challenges in Your Marriage: 5 Strategies for Self-Sufficiency
Marriage isn’t easy. And we are here to help you navigate the challenges that come.
One specific lesson today is about remembering that you are an individual.
Being married doesn’t mean you stop being you and doing you the best that you can.
We have other articles about how to love yourself.
But today we are discussing how you can stay self-sufficient even while inside a happy and healthy relationship.
It doesn’t mean that you stop being dependent on your spouse for their addition to your life. It doesn’t mean you say no to their guidance, help, intimacy and love.
What we are talking about here is not losing yourself completely even as you become one because who you are, is what your unit needs.
In fact, it is important that you remember you and don’t lose yourself because you have on a wedding ring.
You and your social empire will be better for it.
Here are our six strategies to help you stay self-sufficient while you manage your marriage for a lifetime.
Strategy #1: Remember they Love You for You
We often fall in love with the idea of being together. We love being with each other and as a team.
But we must remember that our partner loves us for us not just the idea of what they gain.
Our unique laugh, our compassion, or our ability to negotiate all are what makes us attractive to our mates.
If we forget who we are, we can lose that person as the years go by and the relationship will feel fraudulent.
People grow and develop into more mature and seasoned people; they will change a bit.
But their overall personality should remain.
Strategy #2: Control Your Own Emotions
Happiness is not tied to your mate, but it is a choice you make yourself.
That mean relaying your emotional needs, understanding when you are becoming overwhelmed and monitoring your own mental health.
You stay self-reliant when you stop blaming others for how you feel, take ownership for your own decisions and deal with hard times without resorting to bad things like drugs, alcohol or porn.
People who understand how they feel control their own way even in a marriage. That works out in being an effective communicator, leader and partner because you mean what you say and say it simply.
Emotional regulation is the ability to recognize, manage, and respond to your emotions.
When you don’t know how to regulate emotions, these can get a hold of you and impact the way you relate to yourself, others, and the world in general.
Emotional dysregulation refers to experiencing difficulty when trying to diffuse or manage strong emotions, particularly those considered negative like anger, frustration, and jealousy. Emotional Regulation Skills: Learn How to Control Your Emotions (psychcentral.com)
High emotional intelligence and regulation puts you on a path to healthy interpersonal and coping with life’s challenges.
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Emotional regulation makes you a better partner and it is something you can do all on your own.
When this skill is honed, it can help you:
feel balanced and in control of your emotional reaction
stay calm during challenging situations
better manage stress
protect important connections
actively listen to the needs of others
express your needs in constructive ways
remain professional in work situations
not take things personally Emotional Regulation Skills: Learn How to Control Your Emotions (psychcentral.com)
Strategy #3: Build Your Own Confidence
When you are sure of yourself, what you know, can do and who you are, you are confident all by yourself.
Growing your own confidence makes you have the ability to recognize your own self-worth regardless of what others think.
You won’t rely on your spouse to be constantly picking you up and have an unhealthy co-dependence on them to supply all your needs.
This is different from narcissism in which your ego is over inflated to the point where you stop caring about others.
This is more about being a whole person, a complete you.
You are not 50% and your spouse the other 50%, instead you are 100% and add to their 100% bringing the fullness of your being to the relationship.
This is a healthy understanding of your own abilities with a realistic awareness of your shortcomings. This level of confidence stops you from over committing or wearing yourself thin with too much on your plate because you know your own limits.
You are more focused on why God created you, your purpose in life and less on what others say and think about you.
You are a strong and less fragile person. A full and capable partner that would not need to abuse a mate because you can, if you needed, live alone.
They add to you do not fill in the gaps you refuse to do something about, that are for you to do. That is healthiness in a nutshell.
Strategy #4: Handle Your Business
If you know you owe a debt, you pay it. If you say you are going to do something, you do it. Your word and your actions are your bond.
When you handle the business, you’ve signed up for people can trust you with anything.
You are your own person, and that responsibility is yours to hold. That means that you fulfill your obligations, take care of your kids, and show up when it is expected.
That level of action makes you the partner that can be relied on while you are also know for your unique specialty.
Claire Huxtable was a capable and prominent lawyer in the courtroom while Cliff was a doctor. While they loved each other deeply and cared for their social empire, they each individually dominated in their own careers.
They didn’t need the other to perform, they needed the other to do what they did and do well in themselves.
That is how partnerships work out best. A chain is only as good as the weakest link.
Each link has to bring its own strengths to the mission of the chain fails its job.
Couples who cannot perform in their own lanes makes the whole vehicle of their family flip off the road.
Handle your own business and you will see that you are valued as you are in your marriage.
Strategy #5: Understanding Locus of Control
The way we view ourselves and our perceptions about ourselves determine how successful we are in our interpersonal relationships.
Locus of control refers to the degree to which an individual feels a sense of agency in regard to his or her life. Someone with an internal locus of control will believe that the things that happen to them are greatly influenced by their own abilities, actions, or mistakes. A person with an external locus of control will tend to feel that other forces—such as random chance, environmental factors, or the actions of others—are more responsible for the events that occur in the individual's life. Locus of Control | Psychology Today
This terminology is a psychological trait in how we are independent of other people.
In other words, there is a spectrum or degree to which we believe things happen because of us (internal) or because of other factors (external) to us.
The two views matter in how we act on our goals and our ability to get jobs done.
Your reactions to certain events in your life can significantly.
This is why you get some people with a sudden sadness that they are unlucky and things in life are out to get them like a cheeseburger is at fault for you not sticking to your diet.
Oh, that cheeseburger smelling so good. Why is it keeping me off my diet?
Now, we know that things in life are beyond us: like death, taxes and a weird mother-in law.
But understanding our locus of control gives us the ability to take our life into our own hands or to control what we can do versus focusing on what we cannot.
People who don’t understand will not try to improve because they feel it is out of their hands. People with an understanding will look for solutions to their problems or walk away when there isn’t anything else they can do.
To be self-sufficient and married, is to understand our own locus of control and ways to adjust to better ourselves and in relationships to others.
Key Takeaways
There are a lot of selflessness in being married but we don’t have to lose.
In fact, if we work on ways to be self-sufficient, we can better serve our social empires as the best version we can.
People tend to view marriage as a prison and that cannot be further from the truth.
Let us continue to learn how to be better individuals and better couples.
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