[Repost] 8 Pointers Every Man Should Know before getting Married
Day 13 of our Iconic Men's Empowerment Series
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I pray that you are doing well in life, love, marriage and family.
We are working hard to get out to you empowering content that will help you meet your goals in building a family and legacy that lasts.
Today, we continue to empower you Iconic men during our men’s empowerment series.
8 Pointers Every Man Should Know before getting Married
This time last year, I wanted to know what our Iconic men thought every man should know before getting married.
Instead of me speaking for men, I let you guys tell others what you thought.
And you answered.
Iconic Men’s answers:
Pointer one: Recognizing Personality Disorders.
There are personality disorders that can damage otherwise healthy relationships.. Recognizing the key signs will help you navigate them before issues arise. Catching them early can be the deciding factor of a healthy marriage.
Family members or friends might struggle to understand someone’s actions or thoughts, and the person struggling with the personality disorder may close themselves off from their loved ones. (Source)
This is a hardship in a marriage that is a lot to undertake. There are many disorders like Narcissistic, Avoidant, Dependent, Antisocial and more in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition (DSM-5). How Do Personality Disorders Affect Relationships? All You Need to Know (therecoveryvillage.com)
Depending on the disorder someone has, relationships can suffer due to a personality condition. For instance, people with paranoid personality disorder often distrust others and cannot have healthy friendships or romantic connections due to persistent paranoia.
Pointer number two: Understanding what love is.
The Bible defines love:
“1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Pointer number three: It is work.
Marriage is a full-time job. It is work. Anyone in a marriage, therefore, knows this from doing the work daily. Marriage will work when you understand realistic requirements and try hard to meet them.
In fact, marriage is merely a work in progress-it needs to be watered like a plant in order to grow and flourish. Here's Why Even the Best Marriages Require Work | Martha Stewart
Pointer number four: Being a Team player.
Each person giving 100% for the union not 50/50. Teams that do everything to win usually do. Marriage is all or nothing and has to be taken at that level of seriousness. Without teamwork, the dream does not work.
Pointer number five: Himself
A man has to know who he is before the wedding, even before dating. If not, women will run the show or reject a directionless man. A man that doesn’t know himself has a lack of purpose, a vision with no end in sight. Women can’t follow a man that does not know where he wants to go or where he is taking her. Know yourself, and your social empire will benefit from it.
Pointer number six: Pregnancy changes things.
From the wife’s dealings with the 10 months of work to the changes in house make up bring a child into the world makes you a father/dad for life. Not 18 years but for life to be the guiding light to that baby, everything will change from how you interact with mom to how you structure your assets. Pregnancy changes everything, be ready and enjoy.
Pointer number seven: Sex
Making love and sexual intimacy is very important to the relationship. you learn your own needs and wants as well as that of your spouse. You grow and try new things. Foreplay, romance and daily kisses all encompass a healthy sex life. Make it work with one person for the rest of your life by making it a priority with both parnter’s needs being made.
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Pointer number eight: Sharing housework
If she washes the dishes, you can dry them. If you mow the grass, she can wash the driveway. If you want to get into homesteading or just having chickens now, it will have to be a team effort than just the brunt of it on one spouse. This aligns with the other pointer that talks about teamwork.
Do what works for you and stick to what you agree to do. Be flexible.
Iconic marriages take work. That means listening and working together. There are men in successful marriages that can empower you as a man to lead your household. Leadership is recognizing that you do not know everything and can benefit from the advice of others.
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