Signs of Emotional Neglect in Your Marriage and How to Address Them
Not paying attention to emotional neglect can cost you dearly.
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Signs of Emotional Neglect in Your Marriage and How to Address Them
We have been talking about the importance of emotions in our marriage, how it is influenced by different media and how emotional needs being met is a must.
Our marriages sometimes can become a struggle when we have emotional neglect.
Emotional neglect in a relationship is the absence of enough emotional awareness and response. It may be invisible to everyone, even the couple themselves, yet it's painful. Both partners are hurt by what is not there. 10 Red Flags of Emotional Neglect in a Relationship | Psychology Today
These are invisible experiences that can happen individually or between both of you.
It is the essential when your spouse doesn’t tend to your emotional needs.
So, when an influencer tells you that your spouse doesn’t have to meet these needs, they are dead wrong. They are telling you to neglect an important aspect of a healthy relationship.
What is the defining feature of an emotionally neglectful marriage: Loneliness.
You feel as if you are by yourself with a warm body living and breathing in your space and yet you feel disconnected.
How does this happen?
If can stem from your childhood where you didn’t learn how to handle your emotions and you become unaware of them in yourself and your partner.
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Signs & Solutions for Emotional Neglect
Below are some emotional neglect signs to look out for in your marriage:
Avoiding difficult conversations
Feeling lonely with your mate
An inability to talk to them
The Wrong things are said when you seek comfort
Strained Relationship
Inability to respond to calls or texts
Difficult to count on in hard times
Withholding Affection
Lack of Physical and Emotional Intimacy
When these things happen, a person can build up resentment, get sad, feel unwanted or needs and all these things are unhealthy in a marriage.
These feelings eat at the bond and foundation that glues you to together so you can build.
What causes emotional neglect?
Busy lifestyle
Lack of trust
Different expectations
The birth of a child
Poor communication 17 Signs of Emotional Neglect in a Marriage (liveboldandbloom.com)
We get it. Life happens. And sometimes, things important to us fall by the side.
In fact, men need respect and women need love. Knowing this, and signs of emotional neglect can cause the loss of feelings of both respect and love which strains the attachment you to share.
Respect is a strong sense of admirations for your love. You can’t admire someone who neglects you.
And you sure can’t love them either!
When someone tries to tell you differently, don’t forget this can cause mental health issues as well like depression.
Those who view meeting the needs of their love as a problem rather than a part of the package of marriage, do not have your best interest in mind or they are allowing emotional abuse.
Abuse whether physical or emotional should never be tolerate.
How do we address emotional neglect when we spot the signs?
Fortunately, there are ways to fix this that can empower you both.
Acknowledge each other’s feelings: You might be hurt to hear that your spouse has these feelings but listen anyway. You have to know what the problem is so you can both work on the solution together.
Make Time: Emotional Neglect can come from our busy lives. Remember to make time for your spouse and go back to the things that make you two happy. If that is planning a trip, time away from work and the kids or a night evening with wine and a movie, do it and do it now.
Self-Love and Care: Take time a part working on your as an individual. Get exercise, eat right and pamper your body. Putting water and good nutrients in your body can help you feel good about you. Get new clothes, go to a spa, or read a good book. Working on your whole person on your own makes you a better partner to meet your spouse’s needs. You have to take care of you too or you are no good to anyone.
Seek Outside Help: You never have to go at this all alone. You can reach out to us here at Iconic Media for our 1 on 1 coaching, consultation information is at the bottom of the newsletter. You can read out to your religious team, your therapist or a marriage counselor. Remember that there is help when you need it and there is no shame in seeking it. If you are in a mental crisis, you can use 988 as a number to get you instant help immediately.
Summary
Emotional neglect can creep up into your marriage if you are unaware.
It is an invisible experience that takes emotional intelligence to see.
Don’t let this eat at your marriage as it can pick at the attachments you two have for one another.
It is erroneous to say that a husband/wife doesn’t need to meet your emotional needs.
You can have an Iconic marriage if you are willing to do the work with the right person.
Iconic Media is here if you need someone to talk to or to help you along the way.
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