Strong Dad June: 6 Powerful Marriage Tips to Balance Marriage and Parenting Priorities
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Good Monday, Icons,
Happy #Juneteenth. I hope and pray you are ready for a new week to make your
marriage and family life an Iconic one.
It is still Strong Dad June and I want to address a topic that has been prevelant over the last few days on social media and hopefully help couples navigate life, love, marriage and family.
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Strong Dad June: 6 Powerful Marriage Tips to Balance Marriage and Parenting Priorities
For this month, we are celebrating all dads that are raising their kids to the best of their abilities.
As we work towards Iconic’s goal of encouraging better marriages, we want to help couples balance the juggling act of being great spouses with being great parents.
Conversations recently over social media tend to talk about whether the couple or the kids are prioritizes, where does sex fall in on the spectrum and how do couples make sure they are important as kids will eventually grow and leave the home.
How do we balance both responsibilites?
Which comes first your spouse or your kids?
How do we have enough time in today’s busy world?
These question plague lots of couples but Iconic solutions.
We do believe that your spouse comes first.
However, that is in conjunction with making sure your kids are taken care of as well.
Prioritizing your marriage doesn’t mean neglecting your kids but setting an example for them to follow. It is about order. Kids can’t follow a mother that a dad isn’t showing love towards.
Kids won’t respect a father that their mother also disrespects.
This is about leading by example.
Well then, how else do we win this battle? These fours tips below
Tip #1: Discuss Sexual Expectations.
Women who have just given birth are going through the post-partum time period and at least need to wait 6 weeks before having sex.
But if they plan to breastfeed, tending to a new child can interrupt knocking boots time for parents.
Men and women need to be flexible during this time to ensure they are taking care of their kids, healing from childbirth, getting any sleep they can.
It isn’t the time to fuss over lack of sex, bodily fluid issues, hormone changes and more.
Yes, sex is important. But it isn’t ALL that is important. Couples must know their own sex routine and child count plan BEFORE even having children or you can have back-to-back pregnancies, reopening of wounds, loss of sexual appetite and more.
A lot of what I see on social media could be alleviated if couples are open and honest before they have kids and then remain flexible after the birth.
It is one thing to discuss and agree but you must also keep your word. Working through any medical, mental or spiritual issues and have fun having sex.
But do remember that sometimes you just will not be able.
Tip #2: Mutual Respect
If you honor and love your spouse, you know they are NOT just your spouse but juggle multiple hats daily.
That means taking into account that marriage and family life is not only about meet YOUR needs.
Yes, make time for your spouse and make it often. But remember that there are only 24 hours in a day, and we should sleep 8. In those 16 hours, you need to be an expert at understanding your spouse is human and respecting them for that alone.
Respecting that they decided to marry you, not anyone else. What do I mean?
Cut them some slack and give more care that there needs matter too. People get tired, people get horny, and people get busy (not just in terms of sex).
The best couples are open, honest and sacrifice a lot for the better of the relationship only when both are doing it.
#StrongDads June: Iconic Media Giveaway
We at Iconic Media support dads!
June officially kicks of Strong Dads Month, thought of by the men over at HotepNation.
Check out their latest article here: How to raise Strong Sons
This month we want to help empower men to build Iconic social empires with our tips and tools from our “Iconic Formula for Marriage Success” eCourse.
We are raising $100 per father to give him access to our course. Anything you contribute over $10 gets you a reward on our site page.
(Even if you become a subscriber today).
Let us celebrate the good men out there by giving them tools to win at no more expense to them.
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(Who knows depending on what we raise we can help more dads out).
Tip #3: The kids will be okay
I know this one will sound harsh, but the kids will be okay. I am not talking about newborns who need constant attention or kids who are little or special needs.
I mean those times when kids need absolutely nothing and just bug you for no reason.
Of course, you can cuddle up with them, watch their baby shows or have a little tea time.
But you must as a parent balance the yes you give your kids with a no, wait a minute, not right now.
Scheduling and time management works. Babysitters and switching parents works too.
We have to realize as parents that the kids will be okay if we are not at their beckon call all the time. AS they grow older, they will know how to do small things for themselves that you can allow them to do while you deal with other kids, spend time with your spouse or alone.
You must be the master of your time, lead your kids with compassion and remember that they won’t be little forever.
Tip #4: Your Spouse will be Okay
You still have a right to your own body and can tell your spouse no. Yes, our body is theirs and theirs ours in the marriage bed, but that doesn’t mean you have any right at all to jump on top of a spouse while they are sleep if they have given you a hard no.
And you and I both know; I don’t mean a surprise rub down that turns into more.
A hard and fast no, still means no.
And you will be okay.
But as a couple you have to be able to give sex in many different positions, at many different times and in many quick or long session that the other should not be hurt when you finally just do not feel like it.
And no. There are plenty of working women that can do it all and then some, so stop blaming modern women options for the lack thereof.
Sometimes after a bad day, hormones and other things can cause both men and women to say no to sex and mean it.
Remembering that the spouse you have is the one you love, saying yes and/or no has to be done in a way that keeps the marriage alive.
Just like the kids will be okay with being told no sometimes, so will a spouse.
Just balance your answers often.
Tip #5: Balance the Workload.
The quickest way to prioritize your marriage and your children’s wellbeing is to be full partners.
That means sharing the chores or dividing up all the responsibilities in a way that is fair and agreeable to both spouses.
This means also getting the children involved.
There are age-appropriate chores and jobs kids can do and a whole host of rewards you can use to motivate them to help out.
When a family is a well-oiled machine, each member feels just as important as the others, even a spouse.
You have to figure out what works for you.
We know a lot of people are blaming their marital woes on women working.
But plenty of combination of working like after the kids are school ages or using the virtual marketplace may help.
Our economy is not in a place where people can tell others what is best for their wallets.
As much as some men work and do not want to come home to a dirty house, a wife won’t want to get in the sack if she worked and cleaned up all alone.
One secret you can do is let people do the chores they are best at or don’t mind taking care of.
Also, this is something that needs to be discussed before you are well into your relationship.
Tip #6: Remember Why you Got Married and Had a Family
In the day-to-day grind, we forget why we wanted to be in this loving marriage in the first place.
We often forget we didn’t just marry each other for money, sex and housemaids.
Most of us fell in love with another human being that we wanted our souls to spend eternity together.
In that passion, we were more focused on big wide-eyed hopes and dreams, not dishes and diapers; and boy do those diapers stink.
When we are worried about deadlines, homework, sporting events, bills and more, we have to take a break and remember what we are doing; building a social empire.
That means we must prioritize our relationship so our kids can see what right looks like and then prioritize our kids health and well-being.
That doesn’t mean that sometimes the kids come first in a situation or then the spouse.
What I am saying is that you and your spouse remember your overall goal! What is the vision for your marriage?
Did you get marriage to beat each other up, to pit the kids against each other or your spouse or did you marry to leave a legacy?
Legacy building is not easy. It takes so many things. But remembering your WHY keeps you pushing and never quitting on each other.
And that is Iconic.
Summary
People are so worried about who comes first in their marriage, spouse or kids, they are making everyone come last.
They don’t know how to take a no during sex when a baby is in need or when to take the kids to bed so you can spend time with a spouse.
Couples are struggling because they lost their WHY and themselves in their marriage and will end up in court just to remain sane.
It does not have to be this way.
If you use a little common sense, elbow grease and a bunch of love, you can have a marriage that prioritizes your relationship and takes care of your kids.
When you are ready to do the work, you will get the results you seek.
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