Strong Dad June: 7 Reasons We Need Fathers Now More than Ever
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Having discussed the significance of mothers in May, we're now turning our attention to fathers in June.
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Men are choosing against Fatherhood: 7 Reasons We Need Fathers Now More than Ever
A new study and has shown a disinterest in becoming fathers.
For his study, Robert Bozick utilized data from 3 sources: the National Survey of Family Growth, the Monitoring the Future study, and the Panel Study of Income Dynamics’ Transition to Adulthood supplement. All data was focused on the years 2000-2020.
Bozick utilized data from 18,183 American men from the National Survey of Family Growth, which included questions about if participants see themselves having children in the future and how much it would bother them if they never had children. The Monitoring the Future study focused on high school seniors and asked them what number children they would have and how likely they were to want children. The Panel Study of Income Dynamics’ transition to adulthood supplement examined men aged 18 to 28. Bozick used data from 6 waves asking about the importance of family leave as an aspect of their jobs for participants. New study identifies an increasing disinterest in fatherhood among childless men in the United States (psypost.org)
This is why I oppose the idea of women choosing to parent alone and fathers abandoning their children; the impact on our culture is clear, and our world needs fathers.
The growing disinterest among men in fatherhood is apparent with our declining birth rates, yet the need for fathers is more evident than ever. This newsletter will explain why.
Reason #1: Adults still need their father’s Wisdom
I posted this article only after speaking to my own dad. He was talking to me about him feeling like he did when he first gave his life to Christ.
I was sitting on the couch listening to him smiling from ear to ear at how happy he was in the conversation.
I cherish my own dad deeply and favor him.
My father has been married to my mother for 43 years and has lots of knowledge to continually to share with his children and grandchildren.
He continues to offer me advice on family, marriage, health, and spirituality, even though I now have my own family to care for. His extensive knowledge, gained over more than 60 years in areas like travel, work, and faith, brings immense wisdom to my husband, children, and me.
The need for good fathers persists, regardless of our age. As his health falters, I am grateful to God every day for his presence in our lives.
Reason #2: Mothers cannot replace Fathers
Next to me on the couch, my husband was engaging with our daughter and our son, who was playing on his Nintendo Switch. We were enjoying a family evening, watching Black Summoner on Crunchyroll.
Watching Japanese anime is our family's way of winding down the weekend and gearing up for the week ahead.
As I prepare the homeschooling work for our children, I stumbled upon an article that made my heart sink.
Parenthood is an immense responsibility, and it's preferable if it's not shouldered by one parent alone. I understand why some choose not to undertake it.
Women are not fathers; we need our husbands' involvement in raising our children in ways only they can: through their leadership, teaching boys to become men, showing girls how they should be treated by men, and instilling confidence and strength.
As children grow, fathers teach children to have empathy. Dads are usually more firm about enforcing boundaries. Teaching children to take boundaries seriously teaches them to respect the needs and rights of others.
“Fathers also play a huge role in teaching delayed gratification, the single most important highway to maturity,” Farrell says. Why Fathers Matter - First Things First
Reason #3: The authoritative parenting style
Authoritative parenting differs from authoritarian leadership in child-rearing. This aligns with the notion that mothers and fathers fulfill distinct roles for their children, which is perfectly acceptable.
Fathers often address behavioral issues and actions through their distinctive leadership and management styles. The manner in which fathers connect with their children and elicit their best qualities differs from that of mothers, and this difference is crucial for a balanced father-child relationship.
Researchers have found a variety of benefits stemming from a father’s use of an authoritative parenting style. This parenting style balances sensitivity and warmth with discipline and structure. Within an authoritative parenting style, a father’s children are less likely to have emotional and behavioral issues. Fathers Matter: The Importance of a Father - Focus on the Family
This isn't meant to undermine mothers. It simply highlights that the balance of both a mother and a father leads to better outcomes, as each parent thrives in their unique parenting style.
Children deserve to have an engaged father figure in their lives.
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Reason #4: Children who have fathers fare better in life
Observing the adeptness with which my father, husband, brothers, numerous cousins, and male friends have embraced fatherhood has brought me profund joy because I understand the significance of my bond with my own father.
He readied me for military service, supported me during prom, bolstered my confidence, and was there for me the moment he knew I needed him.
It is evident that children with involved fathers are more likely to succeed in life, a fact supported by scientific research.
An involved father's impact is more than a few good stories, notable quips and hard-learned lessons. Science proves he's worth more.
Studies show children with involved fathers, stepdads or father figures are less likely to get in trouble with the law, tend to do better in school and are more likely to hold a job.
It comes as no surprise in a world where fathers are doubling down on parenting. Fathers today expect to be a big part of their children's lives. Why dads matter, according to science (usatoday.com)
This isn't to suggest that children without can't overcome these challenges; my husband is a testament to that. Despite his struggles from not having his own, he has accomplished a great deal including being a wonderful dad to his own two children. He always wished for the kind of relationship I had, and now, through our marriage, he can experience that with my father.
A 2016 article in Sex Roles found U.S. teenagers with supportive fathers have greater optimism and self-efficacy, which translates to better school achievement. The results occurred even for fathers with little education and limited English. Daughters, in particular, performed better in math. Sons did better in language. (Source)
Seeing the way my husband's face lights up when he took the kids to the zoo this year or when he painted with our son is still something so fun to me. Their unique relationship separates for the one we share is amazing to watch blossom.
Reason #5: Fathers teach delayed gratification.
When my husband assists our daughter in reaching something high or tells her 'no,' the manner in which she comprehends that she cannot have what she desires at that moment differs from my approach.
Mothers are mothers, and fathers are fathers. Each excels in their unique way.
And when my daughter head-butted me during a call with her grandpa because she wanted to say hello, it reminded me that parenthood comes with its own set of stresses.
I understand.
“Fathers also play a huge role in teaching delayed gratification, the single most important highway to maturity,” Farrell says. “When children are allowed to do something without having to do anything to get there, it undermines this process.” Why Fathers Matter - First Things First
Living a free life without the dirty diapers, nose bleeds and constant worry that you got this all wrong is a lot.
And it is even harder on those out here doing it single, kudos to all of you badass people.
I just can't help, despite the head butting my father and I do, that somewhere a kid and man may never know the joy I had today still talking to my father.
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Reason #6: Children do better academically
We often remind men of the importance of their presence in children's lives. However, it's equally important to remember that children enrich men's lives as well, offering lessons and a reminder of the joy of being alive.
With a father present, children can soar to new academic heights. My sister and I both graduated at the top of our high school class; I was fourth, and she was second.
Among six siblings, five of us have established stable families, successful careers, and children. All three of my brothers are exemplary fathers, and the two in-laws are wonderful dads as well.
My sister, who has special needs, also graduated from high school and lives independently.
This narrative is not unique to my family but is shared by many others.
A study by two Harvard researchers found that even when race, education, poverty and similar socioeconomic factors are equal, living without a dad doubled a child’s chance of dropping out of school.
Another study of boys with similar backgrounds found that by the third grade, boys with present fathers scored higher on every achievement test. They also received higher grades. The more years children spend with single mothers, the fewer years of school they complete. (Source)
Parenting can be tricky. You have someone that looks at you as a hero one minute, mad the next, and love you all in the same day and enjoy every bit of it as you rear a new human being in this world.
Having a father around makes the joy of parenting that much sweeter on all of the family and easier with a helping hand.
Reason #7: Better Fathering Makes a Better Marriage.
Parents may not always acknowledge it, but we need our children as well. They help us stay youthful, remind us to laugh, and recall that innocence persists in this challenging world.
When we jointly take on the responsibility of raising our children, it strengthens our bond as a couple.
Our family transforms into a cohesive unit. Homes that are intact and united experience less dysfunction and fewer issues for the community, courts, and government to address.
A father who does his utmost to lead, serve, and provide for the family becomes more admirable and effective as the family patriarch as he imparts morals, authority, and kindness in his distinctive way, benefiting us all.
A diligent father enables the mother to excel in her role as they both support each other making marriage worth the work.
Summary
This post isn't meant to criticize those who choose not to have children; I'm aware that some parents can make those without children feel inadequate.
Rather, it's to offer encouragement to those who are undecided or perhaps are pregnant and feeling overwhelmed.
Sometimes, it's challenging to relate to a God we cannot see when our relationship with our visible father is strained. This strained relationship can cause some to abandon faith altogether.
The near loss of my father in 2008 makes stories like these particularly poignant for me. However, it's not my role at Iconic to pass judgment.
I simply suggest that before making such a decision to not have kids, seek a well-rounded perspective from various sources. Avoid basing your choice solely on negative or embittered experiences. For example, seeing my husband earn my father's approval, and witnessing the bond between the three most important men in my life—my father, my husband, and our son—has been incredibly affirming.
If you're fortunate to have a loving father, make sure to express your appreciation before it's too late.
And strive to be iconic in all your interactions with him.
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