The role of Fathers/Husbands:
Why trashy women are not an excuse to give up on marriage.
An article came across my Twitter timeline today and I wanted to speak on it to be encouraging.
This woman below used men to eat for almost 2 years instead of getting a job.
Real trashy. In a society that proclaims women do not need men, she found an abusive way to use them.
She took the kindness men show potential mates and used it against them to eat.
I get she is hungry, but this is worse than what sex workers do because at least the arrangement is honest up front.
Here is a picture of the article.
*I didn’t post the Twitter user to keep him out of this
Now, this newsletter is not just to blast her as a terrible human being but to pushback on some of the responses I saw to this story.
Many men were upset by this and said something like “This is why I am single”.
And I want to rebuttal that.
You see, there are trashy human beings. Many humans are NOT decent.
When you are looking for the love of your life in the dating world, you will unfortunately find them.
I have.
I also was not nice to other suitors to which I can admit. Most people will never admit that they too have been bad at dating or in a relationship.
But right now, we have a broken society, high crime and falling communities due to the lack of intact marriages.
People are divorcing at a high rate and both sides are walking away.
And stories like this one do not help. Especially since she could not keep this to herself and not blast it in the media as some sort of flex.
Now, men have bragged about their female “Conquests” for centuries. Many men talk about how much sex they have, side pieces and more. So, some men do it too.
People of both genders excuse bad behavior and even use it to flex.
This is not an excuse for her behavior at all.
She was dead wrong.
But do we write-off dating and the opposite sex entirely because of the crazies out here?
No.
And I understand: being robbed and the heartbreak of your kindness being used is not good.
I had an actual ex who took advantage of me for money, stayed begging for cash and financial help but could not be a decent person in the relationship!
I know what it is like to be taken advantage of and how much that hurts.
He even CRIED when I broke it off. Yes, literal tears.
There is good news.
If I let my heart stay black and stopped dating because of the bad suitors of my past, I would not be happy today.
My husband is kind, stoic, strong and a leader.
He is my best friend.
And he told me not to hold things against him that he himself did not do. That is just the type of person he is. He taught me how to love him and he loves me beyond anything I ever had.
You see, I was in love before. But not an authentic love where you bare all truths/lies and whatever but the cowardly love in which you both are frauds because you are not the real you.
After that I had a series of heart breaks and pains that felt like a knife in my chest.
But Mrs. Pinky, this generation is just different. Women are rude, mean and toxic.
Look, contrary to what the elders tell you, people have always been completely mean.
Humans have a sinful nature and that is why we needed the Holy Spirit to lead and guide us. (Christianity 101).
For all others, people are individuals at the end of the day each capable of good or evil.
Men, you have to be the leaders and get back out there.
Fear of hurt, vulnerability, thieves should not stop your happiness.
I should know, I wrote “Breaking Fear” a book about overcoming fear and winning.
Love is worth the work and effort. And homes, communities and our nation benefit positively from strong families. Love is the answer to hate.
I created an entire business just because of the love I share with my man, imagine what mountains can be moved with the love YOU will find.
A wife’s role is to help her man do his Vision.
Your life’s Vision matters. And I am not saying you can’t achieve it alone.
But with the power of love, you can dominate anything you set your mind to right now.
Our nation is not falling because of toxic masculinity or femininity. It is falling because of the lack of leadership especially from the men.
You may not hear this often, but we need. you.
Women can do great things.
But when we have the leadership of Men and the power of Women working together, that is what builds dynasties.
Do not give up on the awesome power of love because of the scheming laziness of people out here.
In fact, she proved she needed men.
She was too lazy to get off her butt and go work and violated these men to eat.
That is sad.
That is nothing but a statement on her as a terrible person.
Yet, we have to stop letting terrible people define entire groups!
You don’t want women defining you by some garbage good for nothing man they know?
Dating is for finding the right one. You may have to pick through an entire dirt pile until you find that diamond. And that is okay.
Once you have the one, you will remember how much it took to find and get them. And you will be in awe at how that one person makes up for all the nonsense you went through to get here.
Don’t give up on love. Families need fathers, wives need husbands and America needs you.
We want you not only to be in love but to have a love that lasts.
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