[Updated] Don't Be Afraid to Be Amazing: Learn how to Defeat the Fear of Poverty
Day 31 of our Iconic Women's Empowerment Series
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Don't Be Afraid to Be Amazing: Learn how to Defeat the Fear of Poverty
No one wants to live in poverty. But do you know some of us are afraid of wealth?
Yes, is true. I get it. Some laugh at such a statement. We would all take a million dollars, right now, wouldn’t we?
Women even more so, tend to grab on to the first man we see to help lift us out of poverty or are afraid to be single for fear of having no money.
Do you hear a theme? It is fear.
Surprisingly, people actually fear poverty. In fact, they fear it so much that it impedes their judgement and thinking.
They struggle to plan, prepare and work to secure wealth and then panic over the fear that if everything collapses, they will be destitute. Many even are fearful of doing what it takes to create and build wealth like poverty is a badge of honor. They freeze up like a goat ready to be attacked. This phobia is no joke.
Some go as far as to wear being broke as some kind of moral superiority when money is just a resource. When managed correctly, money is a tool that can create wealth for your children, help others that are poor and create a vast number of resources that the world has never seen.
The fear of poverty is called Peniaphobia.
A person doesn’t necessarily need to be in a situation exposed to poverty to experience Peniaphobia. The brain doesn’t have to be in that situation to experience the symptoms of panic. A person’s brain is capable of creating a reaction to fearsome situations even when the subject is not actually in that situation. Fear of poverty. Peniaphobia - FearOf.org
Someone doesn’t even have to be poor or impoverished to fear poverty. Importantly, fear is a reaction in our minds. That is how powerful it is, and it can block our success.
It stops us in our tracks. It can kill our hopes, stop upward progress and whisper death, poverty and destruction to a community, a people and a nation.
Ladies, fear is that powerful. It is the opposite of empowerments, success and achievement. In fact, this mindset goes against the work to be rich. It impedes anything we were designed by God to accomplish.
Fear is that bad because it blocks you from creating specific social empires that thrive for years to come. It is in the way of everything you and your spouse will build and it can even cause your guys resentment, anger and divorce.
There is more.
In Outwitting the Devil, Napoleon Hill’s controversial book, he taught about six fears that 98% of the population holds that stops them from succeeding or becoming wealthy.
This book, crazily enough, was so controversial for its criticism of religion and our education system, in 1938, it wasn’t published until 2011!
In it, Hill interviews the “devil”, and the devil clearly lays out his plan to keep a hold on us; he uses fear.
"I cause people to spend freely and to save sparingly or not at all, until I take complete control of them through the fear of poverty.” (Hill, pg 85).
Fear of poverty is one of the many ways this “devil” has his grips on us.
Iconic Women’s History Month March Fundraiser is Live Now
We want to celebrate women making history and doing work on/offline in their communities.
Some historical figures will be recognized this month as well as women making history now.
March is Women’s history month, and we need you.
We are giving away 100 copies of my story “Breaking Fear” to top women making a difference.
Join us in celebrating Women’s History month with your donation of $25 or more to our campaign. You will get rewards like our news book below or Breaking Fear if you don’t already own a copy.
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Being Amazing
Fear starts in the mind. Then, when a mindset gets a hold of us it is hard to let go. We become trapped in our worst nightmare. If you’re a woman that stays in her own head, you become prisoner of your own mind. It is not fun.
Realistic examples of this fear stopping us:
We miss continue miss opportunities thinking something suspicious must be afoot.
We turn down millions of dollars deals because managing that much too fast can hurt us.
We walk away from the love of our lives because commitment is hard. (The #1 reason for divorce over taking money according to Forbes).
We bite success in the face with our fears losing a career we worked hard for.
Life doesn’t have to be that way. We don’t have to be in poverty or have a poverty mindset to be morally sound or to win at life. We don’t have to be destitute, struggle in love, fail to financially plan or struggle to pay our bills. Not with our mindset focus on our fears.
When facing poverty, the researchers found, individuals enter a “scarcity mindset”. When focused on short-term survival, your decision-making ability is scrambled, and your attention span narrowed. How being poor can lead to a negative spiral of fear and self-loathing | Dawn Foster | The Guardian
Our thinking changes when we are in a state of fear. That controls our mental, physical and spiritual health. We become run by our thoughts instead of keeping our thoughts in check. We are the masters of our own minds and we own our lives.
Fear is our enemy and nothing good comes out of it.
Making decisions out of fear will always stop us from succeeding.
How does this work in the relationship or marriage space?
When we are afraid of wealth, we tend to limit our prospects. For instance, we refer to individuals as “high” or “low” value, because we see people of different classes in our minds as persons to divide up. Sadly, we shouldn’t look at fellow humans like that. Humanity is more valuable than that. Our lives, ladies, are worth more than such binary labels and thinking.
Every single person was created for a purpose, and realistically no human is more or less than you. We get out of this life what we put in, despite what many believe, if the circumstances against us allow. We don’t worry though; we create them when we can.
You are more capable than society tells you. Think of yourself as capable regardless of what others say.
Your partner will align with you and trust you to be authentically you, fearless and ready to deal with whatever comes your way.
How do we get out of this fearful poverty mindset? We become amazing ourselves.
You are awesome. Live your life in such a way that YOU recognize it.
It [awesomeness] is about how you behave and interact in the world. It’s about being your greatest self and putting yourself and what you have to offer out into the world. Being awesome is waking up each morning with the intention of moving forward on your journey, progressing as a person, and wanting to do whatever you can to make a positive difference in your life and the lives of others. How to Be Awesome at Life - LifeHack
What does Being Amazing Look like?
Here are some examples:
Realizing what is or isn’t in your power to control
Breaking Fear and Being Free
Treating others how you wish to be Treated
Taking Risk and Opportunities as they come
Helping Others when you can
Leading by Example
Never settling but being realistic
Bringing out your great self by doing the work
Psalm 139:14
New International Version
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
Here are opposite examples of recognizing your own awesomeness:
Staying in toxic relationships when its abusive.
Hurting others because you are hurting.
Putting others down just because you can.
Being greedy and corrupt.
Making excuses for your life and feeling sorry for yourself
Pushing people away trying to help
Key Notes:
Facts: Break the fear of poverty by being amazingly, you. Do the work you need to to get past your own childhood traumas, and negative views of yourself. Learn how to fortify your mind, seek our counseling, coaching and/or mental health help to evaluate if there are underlining issue that you need treatment for. Put you first and love those who love you enough to be open and ones with you.
And in everything you do, be Iconic.
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