When you share things it opens them up to scrutiny. Obviously. But that's not the problem. When you post "what men do wrong" content you'll likely draw the support and shallow comments of a wave of women who are biased against men. This rarely encourages healthy debate, intellectual growth, or personal responsibility. It just solidifies the way some people feel, in a very public arena. Often planting the false seeds of superiority.
Idea #2: Bashing each other.
The easiest thing to do is talk about other people. It fills the craving for salty misery and creates a false sense of belonging. Not to mention the chemicals released in the brain from engaging in these activities. It used to be that women were more inclined to gossip than men, but that's outdated math. "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." <Eleanor Roosevelt has entered the chat>
Idea #3: Understand our Uniqueness.
"Men today complain that women are masculine.
And it is true."
"Many women have been taught/told they don’t need men.
A lie from the pit."
"Men and women are different and that is okay. It is what we do in those differences that matter."
-MrsPinky'sThoughts
The one thing we all have in common is that we're different. Not everyone lives in 3 dimensions. But the people who do only understand and explain within those parameters. And for some bizarre reason, they want to stay in those mental mazes.
So they drag you into the bushes. Don't go. Sure people are conditioned to believe certain things about gender roles. But just like stereotypes, roles exist for a reason. Some people don't want to do certain jobs, even though they can. Basing a personality on a belief tears us apart more than lies ever will.
Idea #4: Understanding Crime
"Some women have been victimized by men... The masculinity (in a woman) isn’t always to be you but because many of us were not protected by you."
This is certified platinum, sad but true. I've met lots of women who have GOOD reasons to hate men, I was made by one. But I've also met a lot of women who have hardened their minds. They let bitterness ugly their view of things and overtake their soul. Just like not all blondes are dumb, not all men are evil (not all women are crazy, but the numbers are pretty high).
My point is, nothing has to stay the way it is. Changes can always be made. It's really beneficial to change, but it's also scary sometimes, life is scary. It forces you to level up. That's what helps us get through it (and evolve as a species). Understanding real fear, and releasing it.
I'm heckin' hard as h*ll. I have had to be to survive, thrive, AND move through the worlds that I do. But, I like being silly, soft, and free to express me. I just "break human form" when no one else is around.
A BIG sincere THANK YOU/CHI MIIGWECH to all the wonderful counselors, amazing group members and other women I’ve met and known throughout my life. From trauma to triumph it has been truly heartwarming to share healing and growing with them all.
We are the beautiful side of domestic violence and the strength forged from the ugly acts that weak people do.
Idea #5: Gender Traditionalism vs Modernism
"Men have dropped the ball as leaders. Because of feminism, they have completely given up their role instead of having the fortitude to fight back, like men of the ancient times would have."
Lots of words spilled in this war. Historically, people did things because they had to, not because they wanted to... Instincts will kick in. My advice to men (but more so, anyone), do what you see needs doing and don't worry about other people. Just worry about your intentions and goals. We don't need to be validated by others, similarly, we don't need to validate others.
Idea #6: Intact homes
"A lot of the gender wars come from broken or dysfunctional home life."
People learn from their environments. Seeing mistreatment, abuse, and negative stereotypes causes men and women to have trouble getting along as adult children. Ironically, adult children are more annoying when released from privileged perfect families and heavenly homes, but that's another conversation...
It's hard to know what right is when you haven't seen it.
And that's what counselling is for! It's nice to let someone be a leader and have someone else as a support, and hierarchies in families are helpful. But people don't always respect each other equally and that's where it all falls apart, isn't it?
Absolute power corrupts absolutely. Would you rather be happy than right?
Believing there's some universal answer to deliver us to paradise where a God who knows our purpose is one way to use your brain. It's also a great way to create an exclusive team that never moves beyond how things are to how they could be. A game where the suffering of anyone not playing can be justified by their lack of participation in your plays.
What women don't understand about men is that men often focus on pleasing a woman TO THEIR DETRIMENT. A lot of men are raised with that programming or instinct. Especially when they meet a woman who brings out the best in them. And that doesn’t have to be wrong.. But a woman who doesn't know what she wants but expects a mind reader? A woman who wants "someone who knows what I like in my tea or coffee" to serve her 😄 That’s a woman who wants a Disney prince and a daddy.
A woman who never says "Wow, I'm psyched to about a nice thing I can do to make this guy's day better because he works in an environment I wouldn't like (or know) how to be in!"
How can a man focus on himself or remember his vision? MUCH LESS establish that vision for a own family when he has to deal with a wife who has visions of her own? Often of grandeur, competition, approval, or selfish desire.
We're talking about ALL women, we’re talking about the ones who learn they're not designed to be men but don't think about what it means to be a man. Yes, a woman can make it on her own. But why do so many act like it's a choice when their caustic personalities and immature mentalities keep men repelled?
Being with a man (anyone) could be better for a woman (anyone) if everyone was more honest about their motivations and mindsets. When you accept what you are, you can accept what other people are, and that's when you become Atypical.
Idea #1: Stop making every feeling public.
When you share things it opens them up to scrutiny. Obviously. But that's not the problem. When you post "what men do wrong" content you'll likely draw the support and shallow comments of a wave of women who are biased against men. This rarely encourages healthy debate, intellectual growth, or personal responsibility. It just solidifies the way some people feel, in a very public arena. Often planting the false seeds of superiority.
Idea #2: Bashing each other.
The easiest thing to do is talk about other people. It fills the craving for salty misery and creates a false sense of belonging. Not to mention the chemicals released in the brain from engaging in these activities. It used to be that women were more inclined to gossip than men, but that's outdated math. "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." <Eleanor Roosevelt has entered the chat>
Idea #3: Understand our Uniqueness.
"Men today complain that women are masculine.
And it is true."
"Many women have been taught/told they don’t need men.
A lie from the pit."
"Men and women are different and that is okay. It is what we do in those differences that matter."
-MrsPinky'sThoughts
The one thing we all have in common is that we're different. Not everyone lives in 3 dimensions. But the people who do only understand and explain within those parameters. And for some bizarre reason, they want to stay in those mental mazes.
So they drag you into the bushes. Don't go. Sure people are conditioned to believe certain things about gender roles. But just like stereotypes, roles exist for a reason. Some people don't want to do certain jobs, even though they can. Basing a personality on a belief tears us apart more than lies ever will.
Idea #4: Understanding Crime
"Some women have been victimized by men... The masculinity (in a woman) isn’t always to be you but because many of us were not protected by you."
This is certified platinum, sad but true. I've met lots of women who have GOOD reasons to hate men, I was made by one. But I've also met a lot of women who have hardened their minds. They let bitterness ugly their view of things and overtake their soul. Just like not all blondes are dumb, not all men are evil (not all women are crazy, but the numbers are pretty high).
My point is, nothing has to stay the way it is. Changes can always be made. It's really beneficial to change, but it's also scary sometimes, life is scary. It forces you to level up. That's what helps us get through it (and evolve as a species). Understanding real fear, and releasing it.
I'm heckin' hard as h*ll. I have had to be to survive, thrive, AND move through the worlds that I do. But, I like being silly, soft, and free to express me. I just "break human form" when no one else is around.
A BIG sincere THANK YOU/CHI MIIGWECH to all the wonderful counselors, amazing group members and other women I’ve met and known throughout my life. From trauma to triumph it has been truly heartwarming to share healing and growing with them all.
We are the beautiful side of domestic violence and the strength forged from the ugly acts that weak people do.
Idea #5: Gender Traditionalism vs Modernism
"Men have dropped the ball as leaders. Because of feminism, they have completely given up their role instead of having the fortitude to fight back, like men of the ancient times would have."
Lots of words spilled in this war. Historically, people did things because they had to, not because they wanted to... Instincts will kick in. My advice to men (but more so, anyone), do what you see needs doing and don't worry about other people. Just worry about your intentions and goals. We don't need to be validated by others, similarly, we don't need to validate others.
Idea #6: Intact homes
"A lot of the gender wars come from broken or dysfunctional home life."
People learn from their environments. Seeing mistreatment, abuse, and negative stereotypes causes men and women to have trouble getting along as adult children. Ironically, adult children are more annoying when released from privileged perfect families and heavenly homes, but that's another conversation...
It's hard to know what right is when you haven't seen it.
And that's what counselling is for! It's nice to let someone be a leader and have someone else as a support, and hierarchies in families are helpful. But people don't always respect each other equally and that's where it all falls apart, isn't it?
Absolute power corrupts absolutely. Would you rather be happy than right?
Believing there's some universal answer to deliver us to paradise where a God who knows our purpose is one way to use your brain. It's also a great way to create an exclusive team that never moves beyond how things are to how they could be. A game where the suffering of anyone not playing can be justified by their lack of participation in your plays.
What women don't understand about men is that men often focus on pleasing a woman TO THEIR DETRIMENT. A lot of men are raised with that programming or instinct. Especially when they meet a woman who brings out the best in them. And that doesn’t have to be wrong.. But a woman who doesn't know what she wants but expects a mind reader? A woman who wants "someone who knows what I like in my tea or coffee" to serve her 😄 That’s a woman who wants a Disney prince and a daddy.
A woman who never says "Wow, I'm psyched to about a nice thing I can do to make this guy's day better because he works in an environment I wouldn't like (or know) how to be in!"
How can a man focus on himself or remember his vision? MUCH LESS establish that vision for a own family when he has to deal with a wife who has visions of her own? Often of grandeur, competition, approval, or selfish desire.
We're talking about ALL women, we’re talking about the ones who learn they're not designed to be men but don't think about what it means to be a man. Yes, a woman can make it on her own. But why do so many act like it's a choice when their caustic personalities and immature mentalities keep men repelled?
Being with a man (anyone) could be better for a woman (anyone) if everyone was more honest about their motivations and mindsets. When you accept what you are, you can accept what other people are, and that's when you become Atypical.